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What I Learned Rewatching Gossip Girl in My 20s: A Fresh Perspective on Drama, Fashion and Life Lessons

The Rakstar — Thu, 05 Sep 2024 19:49:25 +0000

Okay Rakstars, Gossip Girl (the original) seasons 1 – 6 is on Netflix and I know that your teenage self is dying… a whiff of nostalgia is floating down through your veins. How you wanted to be like the characters, dress in haute couture and just immerse yourself in the Upper East side living with the privileged upper class.

Rewatching Gossip Girl as an adult or adult-ish is like reliving all your teenage dreams – something so familiar yet completely different since well, maybe dreams don’t come true. If you are anything like me, you were obsessed with the scandalous lives of Manhattan’s elite, but your 20-something self? She sees things a little differently. From life lessons wrapped in designer clothing to the importance of personal growth, here’s what I learnt from rewatching Gossip Girl in my 20s.

1. Fashion or Personal Style?

Remember when headbands were the accessory? Buying every single colour and design to match with any outfit. Well, we can certainly thank Blair Waldorf for that. This was her signature look which made us all want to add a little preppy accessory to our wardrobes. Rewatching the show, I realized that while fashion trends come and go (remember silly bandz – omg!), your personal style is there forever. Blair was never afraid to be who she was even when she was figuring it all out. Her dedication to her polished aesthetic, made me realize that true style isn’t about following trends, but about choosing your fashion pieces based on what makes you feel confident. Whether it’s a long beautiful golden dress (like Serena’s cotillion dress) or a gothic look (like Jenny) or a classic Chanel bag or a pair of Louboutin heels, investing in timeless pieces is always a good idea when it resonates with you.

Blair’s Headbands

Serena’s Cotillion Dress

2. Friendship or Frenemies? (Serena vs Blair)

Frenemies became a known concept thanks to Gossip Girl. Friendships are complicated and sometimes even more than a romantic relationship. The most famous relationship throughout the 6 seasons was the bond between Blair and Serena. The on-again, off-again friendship between Blair and Serena showed how people grow, outgrow and repair their relationship. Through thick and thin – challenges arise no matter what. Blair and Serena are a reminder that even sister relationships can change but only true friends learn to forgive through the storm. Rewatching the series in my 20s, I learnt that friendships can evolve and that’s okay.

Blair vs Serena

Blair and Serena's Showdown at Yale

3. Love is not a Fairytale

Blair Waldorf and Chuck Bass

Blair Waldorf and Dan Humphrey

Serena van der Woodsen and Dan Humphrey

Nate Archibald and Jenny Humphrey

Nate Archibald and Serena van der Woodsen

Dan Humphrey and Vanessa Abrams

Blair Waldorf and Louis Grimaldi

Lily van der Woodsen and Rufus Humphrey

Lily van der Woodsen and Bart Bass

Eleanor Waldorf and Cyrus Rose

Jack Bass and Blair Waldorf (??)

Ivy Dickens and Rufus Humphrey

Ivy Dickens and William van der Woodsen

Lola Rhodes and Nate Archibald

Where there any more relationships? Probably so. But lost count.

Watching all these relationships unfold as a teenager, it was easy to be drawn in towards the drama, love and the romanticized mystery. The intensity and passion of young love. But now, re-watching it all, we see the red flags!!. Serena and Nate’s cousin (we could see it coming a mile away). Gossip Girl shows us that love is not a fairytale—it’s messy, complicated and often, it’s about finding yourself before you can truly be with someone else. Enter Chuck and Blair’s relationship, growth is key and that love should lift you up, not tear you down. Rewatching Gossip Girl, I learnt what to look for and what NOT to look for in a relationship. Maybe steer away from complicated rich guys??

Who is your favourite Power Couple? Blair Edition

Blair and Chuck

Blair and Dan

Who is your favourite Power Couple? Serena Edition

Serena and Dan

Serena and Nate

4. Gossip Girl is not a fable

We all believe that we are good people who do not spread rumours or engage in gossip but I mean Susanna in Cubicle C had the inside scoop on Amy’s bridal shower and let’s just say Amy is not a boring accountant. The real world – the rumour mill in offices, school and social life is just as active. See all the celebrity gossip websites – we love to hear the tea. Whether it’s good or bad – we live for the spills. What I learnt is that we must protect our peace – we can get caught up in what other people think which can ruin our mental health but at the end of the day – happiness should be based on your opinion of yourself and not what other people think. When you are true to yourself and don’t compare yourself to others – you can live more zen. Hate comments and other people’s opinions do not really matter so long as you are happy with yourself. Rakstars, don’t let anyone dim your light. Shine bright and be kind always.

Gossip Girl Pilot Voiceovers

5. Upper East Side Riches Doesn’t Equal Happiness

Watching the lives of Manhattan’s elite, we all wanted to be rich like them. Living in penthouses and suites and being chauffeured in black car service. Who can say no to that? I certainly won’t. But what we don’t realize is that none of their lives are hunky-dory. For you see, it’s clear that money can’t buy happiness or in this case love between any of the main characters or that their careers are just as panicky as the rest of us. Sure, they are 10 steps ahead of the ladder – but for them to prove themselves is just as difficult as the rest of us. Serena is on a constant search for self-worth. She is branded as the It Girl where things just come to her which makes her less respectable. On the other hand, Chuck has constant battles with his inner demons – wanting to make a name on his own turf while battling what’s right and wrong. Blair and Nate – well – they are figuring out that true happiness comes from within and not what society’s expectations are or dare I say, trust fund. Dan and Jenny – in order to be like the rich – they had to lose much more of themselves than they wanted.

Chuck Bass and his Inner Demons

Serena’s Grandmother CeCe's Will

6. Finding Yourself is an Ongoing Journey

Rewatching Gossip Girl (okay so maybe like binge watching Gossip Girl seasons 1-6 non-stop) showed me significant character growth. In the past, we had to wait for each episode once a week and when the season ended we waited months and months for the new season. Binge watching is a whole new learning experience. Every character was on a path of finding out who they are. Blair was on a quest to figure out herself away from her relationship with Chuck. Dan had a constant battle with himself as an outsider trying to assimilate himself into the wealth culture hence his book name Inside. I never really understood this watching it the first time around cause I never really experienced it myself. But now that I’m older and certainly hopefully wiser I can see that even in your 20s you are still figuring yourself out and you don’t know the answer right away. It’s okay. The path is never straight and it should be something that we should embrace, not fast forward.

Dan's Tell-All Book - Inside

7. Success and Ambition is a Double-Edged Sword

We want to be successful. Yes we do. But it’s not always positive feedback we get. Blair has a constant drive to succeed, be the best and her ambition is out of this world. She always fights to get what she wants but sometimes it leads her to make choices that are questionable where she would rather sacrifice her relationships with others and create more drama. Her desire to get into Yale, led her down the wrong path with one of her teachers, moreover, the amount of times she and Serena fought. Lesson learned here – have ambition but make sure to strike a balance between what is acceptable and not lose yourself in the process.

Blair Gets Waitlisted at Yale

Growing Up with Gossip Girl

Gossip Girl was definitely a nostalgic trip down memory lane. Flip phones, anyone! Ah, technology! But reminiscing the simple times, the messages it shared offered a new perspective of life, love and personal growth. It was a great series.

So the next time you binge-watch Gossip Girl, remember: you’re no longer just an outsider looking in—you’re someone who’s lived a little, loved a little and learned a lot.

XOXO

Gossip Girl

(Always wanted to do that!)

Love, The Rakstar

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Corporate Girl Evening Self-Care Routine

The Rakstar — Sun, 14 Jul 2024 19:49:21 +0000

As the day goes dark and it’s nearly time for night night. Not a soul is out on the street, all are in their homes, what are they doing one may ask? Well, that’s easy. They are indulging in their evening self-care routine!

As dinner ends, I gently wind-down. I begin by slowing my pace and finish up the dishes. I like to indulge in aromatherapy using calming scents of lavender or chamomile essential oils. One drop in a diffuser and it helps to create a tranquil atmosphere, ready for relaxation. I like to treat myself on the weekends to a warm bubble bath filled with epsom salts, essential oils and some rose petals. We are royal, aren’t we? The hot bath washes away the stress from the week, leaving me fresh and renewed.

I do like to disconnect from the screen at least an hour before bedtime to give my eyes a break and a mind to relax. Although sometimes, I do get obsessed with binge watching my favourite shows, I know my body is tired and thus, be strict on myself to turn off any blue screen devices.

I change into my cozy pajamas, something soft and comfortable marks the transition that soon it will be bedtime. I warm the kettle, placing a chamomile tea bag or a hibiscus tea bag in my teacup – soothing me from the inside for a restful night.

As I lay in bed, I like to take a few minutes to practice mindful breathing, inhaling the calm and exhaling the tension. This helps to present me in the present moment.

I dim the lights opting for a softer warm tone so that it’s not hard on my eyes and it signals to my brain that it’s time to wind down. I keep a journal by my bedside and jot down some thoughts that come to mind or any stressors where I can release whatever my mind has been holding on to.

At last, I hold my book and smell the pages. Something on paper filled with stories allows me to transition to the full state of relaxation. I change up my books – sometimes it’s novels, self-help or a classic. Anything of interest.

Finally, when my yawns appear to be present, I place the book on my side table, flop my pillow down and hit the lights for a restorative sleep.

Good Night! Sweet Dreams, Rakstars.

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Corporate Girl Morning Self-Care Routine

The Rakstar — Sun, 14 Jul 2024 19:42:45 +0000

Hey Rakstars,

We all have the morning routine, whether it’s jumping out of bed and dashing into our clothes, running out of the door with a coffee in our hands or it’s sleeping in and snoozing for the rest of the day. Whatever your day may look like – there should always be time for self-care.

Have you ever tried to start your day with tranquility? Be in the zen zone! It is possible. With a little bit of time management skills, you can plan your morning. After all, incorporating self-care in the morning sets your tone for the day.

Do you want to be a happier person and smile at the crowd or a grumpy person who can’t wait till they sleep again? The choice is yours.

If you’re in doubt, try it for yourselves. Here is my self-care routine. I hope it helps.

Soothing sounds of my alarm clock drizzle in. I slowly open my eyes lying on my back staring at the ceiling. I take some time to stretch and adjust my eyes. I slowly wake up. It’s important to gently get up to prevent any stress in the body.

I sit on the edge of my bed and take a few minutes of deep intentional breathing. Inhaling positivity and exhaling any tension.

I have been in love with morning stretches. It is something that is so peaceful yet encouraging for the muscles to move. I stretch my body slowly, reaching for the sky – reaching for all those dreams to turn to reality and then twist gently from side to side. Another stretch I love is rolling my shoulders to release any overnight stiffness.

I don’t have an obsession with coffee – at least not yet. I like to sip on a warm cup of herbal tea, sometimes green tea and sometimes hibiscus, for whichever mood I am in. It is important to hydrate yourself in the mornings and the warmth of the hot drink comforts me.

I like to take a warm shower in the mornings, letting the warmth soothe me for the day ahead. I like to use a fragrant shower gel, it makes me feel happy and smells good.

I put on my skincare – the serums, the creams and all the fun and good stuff. I like to change my routine up for spontaneity as it always depends on the mood I am in. Sometimes, I go full force and work on those 10+ steps or I like to be minimal and cut back depending on my time. Either way, I like to indulge and pamper myself.

I’m obsessed with dressing comfortably, wearing something that makes me feel good. This comfort contributes to my overall sense of well-being and it stimulates my mind that I got this. I put on a cozy top (love long sleeves so that I am never cold) and stretchy pants. That is the golden outfit for me.

For breakfast, I like to prepare a nourishing wholesome meal such as oatmeal, fresh fruit and coconut yogurt, sunny side eggs or a smoothie. Whatever is quick and easy for that day.

My biggest love for the mornings is spending a few moments outside. The trees are tall where I live and so I like to just stand outside and view nature. Squirrels hopping around each tree, baby chipmunks running from bush to busy and a bunny rabbit with a brown pom pom tail. I feel that it’s important to connect with the world around me as it makes me feel grounded. Try it for yourself and see the difference it has on your day.

I sit at my desk and repeat positive affirmations to myself reminding me that I am capable and strong and can get through anything that comes my way. This helps to set a positive tone and a positive mindset.

I love to journal, where I jot down my thoughts, my goals and aspirations. I like to fill in my to do list for the day at this time and write down some things that I am grateful for. It really helps to put you in your mindspace.

It is important to create a calming serene space around you that promotes positivity, calmness and motivation. Adding plants or soft lighting and even decluttering can help you achieve those goals.

Whenever I feel like I am losing hope or am just out of it, I like to play gentle music or even a meditation – just to calm my racing thoughts. Or sometimes when I am stressed up, I do the complete opposite and listen to rap music shouting out the lyrics. It works, trust me!

And that’s it, Rakstars. My morning routine. Having a self-care routine is an act of love for yourself. Remember that a routine is all about nurturing yourself while being regal, ambient and kind. Having an established self-care routine can help inspire you and set a peaceful tone for the day, enjoying the calm energy it brings.

: Photo by Marcus Aurelius

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A Letter to Me: Bridgerton Style

The Rakstar — Sun, 16 Jun 2024 18:34:14 +0000

My dearest reader,

As I write to you from this very quill, I suspect nothing but greatness from you. An undisputed sovereign of your own story. From the bustling world to the orchestra’s play – the symphony of life composed of tribulations and triumphs, threaded through regality and ambience. Kindness filled with suspense and enchanting aspirations, may you blossom to your dreams of success while blooming with each life lesson. A rough storm of adversity can ruffle your feathers, but it’s only a bit of gardening to help grow to the garden of greatness.

Balls and gowns flee thy halls, time passes, citizens speak but not one for the other – a form of conspiracy. Life of a foxtrot is something so divine that others dream. Be wary of what it may seem. Train tracks take the route, a destination of willingness and unknown. It’s the controller’s route but not necessarily your own. One must simply get off route to be pulled in the right direction, something that can’t be foreseen but simply through thaumaturgy. Bladeless words you shall speak, let that seep to others – nothing sharp. Let the sun kiss make you glow for it’s the onus of your will to let it flicker. Jewels, amulets and crowns can dress one up. Let them beam in make-pretend costumes, for we value the real star, commander in reign.

So fear not, enemies and strife will reside in life. Cookies and creams may take the pain but there are never problems in vain. Just opportunities of challenges. Strong-willed and mighty like a verdigris armor; through developed layers a captivating testament to the passage of your time. It shall be hard, but let others see what thy see. Only true people will know thy worth. Love is impeccable so hold it tight.

As the ink swims, through ramshackle times, you have faced the unknown, but through thick and thin you’ve seeped to an incorporeal presence; something so sufficient yet forgotten to conquer. Gentle reminder, you can never be prescient, but you can be proclivity for calmness.

As the air is thick and melodies forgotten, make sure thy dance floor you choose is adorned with elegance and harmony. Observe the eras long past – the stories, the triumphs and the calamitous.

I shall envision a life filled with exultant stories with panoply strength and happiness. May the inkwells of inspiration never run out and pages of life be filled with an abundance of immanent chapters. Remember, your star of regality, ambience and kindness, that in the dance of destiny, you are the ruler of your own story.

In Great Kindness,

Lady Rakstar

: Photo by John-Mark Smith

: Photo by Diogo Araújo

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The Secret to Supple Skin?

The Rakstar — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 22:41:25 +0000

The secret to getting your skin supple and smooth like a baby’s bottom! No lie, don’t get mad! This actually works.

Drumroll please… you ready… Are you sure you’re ready….. I don’t think you are because if I know any better an eye roll is going to appear but stop, don’t roll… JUST READ!

Water! Water! Water, you are my Holy Grail!! Listen I get it, we are told this but we don’t listen. Why? Because well we don’t believe in it. Drinking water is like telling us to eat more vegetables. Boring! We are searching for this hidden treasure, the next beauty find, this incomprehensible supercharged amazing device that’s going to age us back to when we had baby skin. Uh…so while you wait. I’m gonna drink my water. (But by all means let me know when you get the skin time machine).

Water is an ancient old tale snooze fest solution you think but let me tell you water is the ultimate tool in your skincare routine plus many other benefits. Water is simple, essential and the elixir of life. But I’m telling you – don’t think after one day drinking “some” water (like a glass) is going to do the trick. No, I’m talking about 30 days drinking 2 liters and pouring down mountains of rain so that the person next to you in the bathroom stall will think there’s a rainstorm!

Benefits of Water

Skin Health

Want radiant and healthy-looking skin? Yes please!! Water is your skin’s best friend. Proper hydration helps maintain skin elasticity and prevents dryness. Moreover, it promotes a glowing complexion. It’s like nature’s own beauty treatment!

Hydration and Cell Function

We all know water is essential for hydration. Our bodies are about 60% water and every cell, tissue and organ relies on water to function properly. From regulating body temperature to lubricating joints, water is the ultimate hydrator. So it’s not just good for the skin but for the rest of our body.

Cognitive Function

Dehydration can impair cognitive function and mood. Staying adequately hydrated helps to maintain our focus, our concentration and our mental alertness. So the next time you need a mental boost, reach for a glass or two of cold crisp water.

Boosts Physical Performance

Whether you’re an athlete, a wellness guru, a fitness enthusiast or just hitting the gym (cause you know you gotta stay in shape), staying hydrated is essential for optimal physical performance. Dehydration can lead to fatigue, muscle cramps and dizziness, hindering your ability to perform your best.

Final Thoughts…

Water is not just a beverage; it’s a cornerstone of well-being. From the cellular level to overall health, the benefits of water are so profound that we need to be more mindful of how much we are drinking. So, sip, gulp and savor the goodness of a clear, tasteless and absolutely indispensable liquid that keeps us alive and thriving.

If you don’t like the taste of water or need to be motivated. I got your back, Rakstars – after all to be regal – the sovereign must drink their water. See below for cool types of water and water cups.

As an added bonus, try using a thermal spring water spray on your face. It feels amazing.

Try this:

Essentia Ionized Alkaline Water 9.5 pH

Flow Alkaline Spring Water (Cucumber Mint)

AQUAFIT 2l Water Bottle with Straw

32 oz Glass Water Bottles

Coconut Water

: Photo by Fernanda Latronico

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Spray My Face…Please

The Rakstar — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 22:30:12 +0000

In the world of skincare, innovation develops to rejuvenate and refresh our skin. Our beautiful faces that we so ever please for hydration and good looks. One amazing addition to our never ending skincare routine because come on let’s face it – skincare has become the new self-care. Drum roll please….The Face spray. A burst of hydration, a touch of soothing luxury and a hint of science—all bundled up together in a beautiful fine refreshing mist.

The Science of Thermal Face Sprays

At first, you think it’s just water. Why on earth would you pay x amount for water in a bottle for your face? Dollar store DIY anyone? But let me tell you, thermal face sprays are not just water in a bottle…it’s way more than that. The term “thermal” is derived from the inclusion of thermal spring water in many formulations. This water is sourced from natural springs, which is rich in minerals like selenium, zinc and even silica. These minerals are believed to soothe skin, making thermal face sprays an excellent choice for those with sensitive or cranky skin types.

Fun Fact: Did you know that the thermal water undergoes a unique process from the depths of the earth all the way to your spray bottle? This process keeps the water’s purity and enhances its mineral content, resulting in a product that not only hydrates but also feeds your skin. Pretty cool, huh?

The Multifaceted Benefits

Instant Hydration

Thermal face sprays provide an immediate quench relief which makes this the perfect on-the-go use or a quick pick-me-up during a really long day. You can definitely use it for a pick-me-up whenever and wherever. The fine mist ensures that the skin absorbs the moisture evenly which leaves your skin feeling revitalized and plump.

Soothing Sensation

The minerals in thermal spring water have anti-inflammatory properties. So, whether you’ve spent a day in the sun or your skin is feeling the effects of environmental stressors or maybe real stressors like Susanna in Cubicle B, a thermal face spray can offer relief or fight against those evil looks but unfortunately can’t melt the haters away.

Setting Makeup

A quick spritz can help set your makeup allowing you to give off a more natural look as well, a dewy finish. Who doesn’t love that? It helps to meld the layers of makeup together and prevents the dreaded cakey look. Yikes!

Travel Essential

Whether you’re jet-setting or enduring a long commute on the train, thermal face sprays are a travel essential. They help combat the dehydrating effects of air travel or long hours in air-conditioned environments. Plus, they can really help to wake you up whether you are in a long boring lecture or are just plain bored at work with tasks that make you want to sleep.

Choosing the Right Thermal Face Spray

Not all thermal face sprays are created equal, so it’s essential to choose one that suits your skin’s needs. Look for products that are free from harsh chemicals as these can counteract the soothing benefits of the thermal water.

Let’s get real here, Rakstars. The thermal face spray is a luxury essential, offering your skin hydration, soothing relief and if I might say, a touch of wonder. So, the next time you feel the need for a skincare refresh, reach for a thermal face spray and let the fine mist work its magic. Your skin will thank you for it! As well, Susana in Cubicle B has got nothing on you!

Our favourite face sprays:

La Roche Posay Thermal Spring Water

Eau Thermale Avene Thermal Spring Water

: Photo by Karolina Kaboompics

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Acne? Who Me?

The Rakstar — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 20:10:08 +0000

Rising Above the Stigma

Disclosure: An Open Conversation About Acne. Not meant to hurt anyone’s feelings. This is just a rant – an opinion piece.

We want to make it clear that our intention here is not to hurt or offend anyone. The Rakstar understands that acne is a sensitive topic and we want to create a safe and supportive space for discussion and reflection.

“Don’t judge me. I see you’re rolling your eyes up and down at my face. It’s obvious and quite rude. I don’t say anything because frankly I don’t want to get into the whole situation. Maybe you feel sorry for me and maybe just maybe you are thankful it’s not you. Maybe you feel better, high and mighty and think you can rule me. But listen, you can’t. Acne is not some sort of disease that you need to step 10 feet away from me. No, it is not caused by eating bad greasy food or that we are dirty people. No, it’s not that we pick our skin or that we don’t wash our face. No, acne is something we are going through. Please we do not need your unsolicited advice. I have a dermatologist for that, thank you very much. Yes, I do feel insecure about it and it’s not because of me. It’s because of you. The way you look at me as if I am an alien from outer space. No I am human, thanks for asking. When I am alone, I’m calm. I’m fine. When I’m out with others, I’m self-conscious – waiting just waiting for someone to say something. Please don’t. If I want to ask for your help, I will ask.”

Have you ever felt the weight of judgmental stares and unwanted advice pouring your way? You are definitely not alone. Acne is a tear of hearts that many of us go through but it does not… I repeat Rakstars…does not define who we are. Let’s set the record straight in a supportive space so that we each can feel better about ourselves and our skin.

Stigma?

Let’s talk about the zebra in the room—those judgmental stares and eye rolls and condescending tone. Yes! You’ve seen it and unfortunately, we have all been there. It’s as if having acne is some sort of disease where we are put under a microscope for everyone to just scrutinize and think they are better. But here’s the truth, Acne, as scary as it may sound, is not a contagious disease and it’s definitely not a reflection of our hygiene nor our lifestyle choices. Yep you heard right!

Misconceptions!

Acne often gets a bad reputation where people think it’s caused by us eating greasy food, being dirty or not taking care of our skin. Really you don’t say? (We can be condescending too, if we wanted but we are kind) If it was that easy to get rid of Acne, don’t you think we would be taking care of all those things by now? But let’s remove these myths once and for all. Acne is known medically as Acne vulgaris – a skin condition which is influenced by genetics, hormones and other factors. It’s not our fault that we have acne and we shouldn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed of it.

The Unsolicited Advice!

Ah, the unsolicited advice. You have heard it! Haven’t you?

“You should eat more vegetables.”

“You should wash your face with cold water.”

“You should stop eating chocolate.” (Never!)

“When my cousin’s daughter’s best friend’s cat’s friend’s neighbor’s daughter had acne – she used this special cream that was found in the Amazon forest – you should try it. It cleared her skin in a day.” (Really, Aunt Marge – thank goodness you are not a Doctor.)

We’ve all been there, Rakstars. Friends, family members and even strangers offering their “miracle” solutions to our acne misery woes. But here’s the deal and don’t take this the wrong way. We have dermatologists and medical estheticians for that. We’ve got our skin care routines in check and we’re doing our best to manage our acne. We appreciate your concern (not really), but please respect our choices and our boundaries. And as much as you think that giving your advice is helping it has the opposite effect, making us feel more conscious about our skin. The fact that you brought it up makes us feel that we are looking like a giraffe at a penguin park.

Emotions ride the Rollercoaster

Acne can bolt us down on the rollercoaster called Our Self-esteem. This is not because of us. It’s because of how others perceive us. The way people look at us. The judgmental looks! The whispered comments! All of it adds up. When we are alone, we can be at peace with ourselves, but in social situations, we often become self-conscious, waiting for someone to say something mean or hurtful or give that unsolicited advice or just stare at the pimple itself like it will magically pop. So here’s a simple request: please don’t. If we need advice, we will reach out. In the meantime, a little empathy and some understanding can go a long way. It’s not easy having Acne.

Empowerment & Self-Love

Living with acne is definitely a rollercoaster that doesn’t end straight away. It is not something that can be cured overnight, but it doesn’t define our worth. Rakstars, we are so much more than our skin. So why can’t we support each other, lift each other up and remember that we’re all humans with beautiful experiences. Acne is just one chapter of our story and you know what, you know what (added for dramatic effect), we are the authors of our own lives.

Rakstars, remember that you are beautiful, both inside and out. Don’t let the judgments and misconceptions of other people dim your light. You are a full LED light bulb okay! You’ve got this. Embrace yourself and don’t be afraid to ask if you need help. Love Yourself! Rakstars, we can rise above the Acne stigma and we can create a world where we feel comfortable in our very own skin. You are beautiful with or without Acne, don’t you ever forget that!

: Photo by Anna Nekrashevich

: Photo by Ron Lach

: Photo by cottonbro studio

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Pucker Up or Pout: Lip Balm

The Rakstar — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 01:34:39 +0000

Nourishing Lip Balm, humble and kind. A beauty accessory for all, this plays such an important role in maintaining the softness of our beautiful kind lips.

Moisture Yes Please

Lip balm’s primary function is the moisture, like literally. It creates a protective barrier so that our lips do not become dry or chapped even in the harsh weather. No hot chocolate is going to moisturize those lips.

Cracking and Peeling:

Lips balm can prevent your lips from peeling. Let’s be honest here, it looks unpleasant when you are talking to someone. Dry lips are not that quite attractive and it can be painful.

Lip Health

Yes, your lips need to be healthy too. When using ingredients like shea butters, essential oils and beeswax, this can help to keep your lips supple and soft like butter.

Better for Makeup Application

Lip balm can create a smooth canvas like a baby’s bottom. Any lipstick, lip pencil and lip gloss can glide on for a smoother flawless finish. Plus, it can stay on for a longer period of time.

Multiuse

Lip Balm is awesome, since you don’t have to use it for your lips. No, Rakstars, you don’t. You can use it for a quick fix for dry cuticles, rough elbows or to even tame the beast (those eyebrows) in a quick fix.

Rakstars, try out these moisturizing lip balm – they are like a soft cloud or if you want you can create your own.

Sephora: Lip Balm

Amazon: Lip Balm

DIY Lip Balm Recipe:

Ingredients:

2 tablespoons coconut oil
1 tablespoon shea butter
1 tablespoon beeswax pellets
A few drops of your favorite essential oil for fragrance (e.g., lavender, peppermint)

Instructions:

1. In a heat-resistant bowl, combine 2 tablespoons of coconut oil, 1 tablespoon of shea butter, and 1 tablespoon of beeswax.

2. Heat the mixture in a microwave or on a stovetop until fully melted.

3. Add a few drops of your favorite essential oil and stir well.

4. Pour the mixture into small containers and let it solidify before using.

Lip balm is a daily essential for beautiful and dare I say kissable lips. Dry Air Winter season or Scorching Sun season, lip balm is meant for all seasons. Use it as a secret weapon and create your own customized to your liking. Rakstars, smile with confidence.

: Photo by Antoni Shkraba

: Photo by Ron Lach

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Pucker or Pout: Glossy Glam

The Rakstar — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 01:18:27 +0000

Lip gloss, the overall finish to any good radiant clean look. That shimmering finish has been known to charm its way through the world of a clean aesthetic. Who are we kidding? We are messy but no one else has to know that. Life filled with abundance of gloss, makes you a boss. This powerful packed lip thing can elevate your overall look.

The greatness of lip gloss can help form your lip to luscious looking lips.

The Glossy of Lip Gloss

Radiant Shine

The number one use of lip gloss is undoubtedly the radiant powerful shine it portrays. It reflects light, creating a shiny effect that can pair well with any outfit. You look ambient!

Versatile

You can wear lip gloss by itself or pair it with your favourite lipstick to add that glossy finish. Lip gloss is incredibly versatile. This lip saver effortlessly adapts to your desired level of wowness. Wait is that the sun, no it’s just your gloss cause you’re a boss.

Enhanced Fullness

Lip gloss can create an illusion of fuller lips. (Without the needle!) Who doesn’t like that? This makes it a go-to-choice for those wanting a voluptuous pout.

Youthful Aesthetic

Lip gloss is nostalgic. The days when we were young kids who thought this was the best thing ever – it still is. Lip gloss can create the same dewy aesthetic with its light-reflecting properties. It softens the appearance of fine lines creating a “I’m not old look.”

Our favorite lip glosses are:

Sephora: Lip Gloss

Amazon: Lip Gloss

Not ready to commit, create your own lip gloss:

DIY Lip Gloss Recipe:

Quick Recipe # 1:

Flavoured Lip Gloss:

Mix aloe vera gel with a drop or two of your preferred flavoured extract (like vanilla or mint). The aloe vera will add a glossy sheen.
Stir well and transfer the mixture to a small lip gloss container.
Apply the gloss to your lips for a hydrating and flavored shine.

Full Commitment Recipe # 2:

Ingredients:

2 tablespoons coconut oil
1 tablespoon beeswax pellets
1 tablespoon sweet almond oil
1 teaspoon honey
Optional: A few drops of your favorite essential oil for fragrance (e.g., vanilla, mint)

Instructions:

In a heat-resistant bowl, combine coconut oil, beeswax pellets and sweet almond oil.
Use a double boiler or microwave in short intervals to melt the ingredients until you achieve a smooth liquid consistency.
Stir in the honey, and blend it with the melted mixture. Honey adds a hint of sweetness and moisture to the gloss.
If desired, add a few drops of your preferred essential oil to infuse a delightful fragrance into your lip gloss. Stir well to combine.
Carefully pour the liquid gloss into small lip gloss containers or empty lip balm tubes. Leave them open until the gloss solidifies.
Once solid, your DIY lip gloss is ready for application. Use your fingertips or a lip brush to glide the gloss onto your lips for a shiny, moisturized finish.

Rakstars, lip gloss is not just a gloss for shine and ambience, it’s an expression of confidence and glam. Be a glossy bossy star and experiment with different brands, different shades and of course, create your own personalized touch. Score big on your lip game.

: Photo by George Milton

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Pucker Up or Pout: Lip Mask

The Rakstar — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 00:29:50 +0000

Lip Mask

Kissed by Bliss

We all have heard of lip balms and face masks, but what if I told you about a mash up. Here comes… lip masks…the long forgotten sister. They take lip care to a whole new level and I mean, a whole new level. This is the ultimate luxury lip treatment for your pout and those kind words.

Lip Masks can offer many benefits:

Deep Hydration: Lip masks can be formulated with hydrating ingredients like hyaluronic acid and glycerin, which can give a surge of moisture that can penetrate deep into your lips. With moisture comes hydration helping you to combat dryness while leaving your lips rejuvenated. Just be sure to keep quiet while the lip mask does its thing.

Nourishment: Find lip masks that are infused with Vitamin E and Vitamin C, offering nourishment to ya lips. Check out the ingredients and see what benefits it provides!

Enhanced Plumpness: Lip masks can have ingredients that help enhance lip volume and fullness. Pretty cool, huh!

Soothing Effect: Lip masks that have aloe vera and chamomile can provide a calming effect which is beneficial for those with sensitive irritated lips.

These are our faves:

Amazon: Lip Mask

Sephora Lip Mask

But if you prefer, you can make one at home.

DIY Lip Mask Recipe:

Ingredients:

1 tablespoon honey
1 teaspoon coconut oil
1 teaspoon plain yogurt

Instructions:

1. In a small bowl, mix together all ingredients until well combined.

2. Apply the mixture to your lips.

3. Leave the mask on for 20 minutes to allow the ingredients to work their magic.

4. Gently wipe off or rinse the mask with lukewarm water.

Rakstars, lip masks elevate your self-care ritual for your lips. This provides a nourishing experience. Whether you’re dealing with dryness, or simply indulging in some pampering. This long forgotten mask is a perfect pick-me-up addition to your beauty ritual. Try out the DIY recipe and let your lips dance in the bliss of natural ingredients. Self-care all begins with you and your care that you bestow upon your lips. So Rakstars, what are you waiting for? Try it for yourself.

: Photo by Monstera Production

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What I Learned Rewatching Gossip Girl in My 20s: A Fresh Perspective on Drama, Fashion and Life Lessons

1. Fashion or Personal Style?

Blair’s Headbands

Serena’s Cotillion Dress

2. Friendship or Frenemies? (Serena vs Blair)

Blair vs Serena

Blair and Serena's Showdown at Yale

3. Love is not a Fairytale

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Blair and Chuck

Blair and Dan

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Serena and Dan

Serena and Nate

4. Gossip Girl is not a fable

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5. Upper East Side Riches Doesn’t Equal Happiness

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7. Success and Ambition is a Double-Edged Sword

Blair Gets Waitlisted at Yale

Growing Up with Gossip Girl

Corporate Girl Evening Self-Care Routine

Corporate Girl Morning Self-Care Routine

A Letter to Me: Bridgerton Style

The Secret to Supple Skin?

The secret to getting your skin supple and smooth like a baby’s bottom! No lie, don’t get mad! This actually works.

Drumroll please… you ready… Are you sure you’re ready….. I don’t think you are because if I know any better an eye roll is going to appear but stop, don’t roll… JUST READ!

Benefits of Water

Skin Health

Hydration and Cell Function

Cognitive Function

Boosts Physical Performance

Final Thoughts…

Spray My Face…Please

The Science of Thermal Face Sprays

The Multifaceted Benefits

Instant Hydration

Soothing Sensation

Setting Makeup

Travel Essential

Choosing the Right Thermal Face Spray

Acne? Who Me?

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Stigma?

Misconceptions!

The Unsolicited Advice!

Emotions ride the Rollercoaster

Empowerment & Self-Love

Pucker Up or Pout: Lip Balm

Moisture Yes Please

Cracking and Peeling:

Lip Health

Better for Makeup Application

Multiuse

DIY Lip Balm Recipe:

Ingredients:

Instructions:

Pucker or Pout: Glossy Glam

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Radiant Shine

Versatile

Enhanced Fullness

Youthful Aesthetic

DIY Lip Gloss Recipe:

Quick Recipe # 1:

Full Commitment Recipe # 2:

Ingredients:

Instructions:

Pucker Up or Pout: Lip Mask

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Kissed by Bliss

DIY Lip Mask Recipe:

Ingredients:

Instructions:

Rising Above the Stigma

The Glossy of Lip Gloss

Lip Mask