5 Game-Changing Lessons I Learned from Vanderpump Rules That Will Transform Your Life
When you think of reality TV, lessons about life might not be the first thing that comes to mind but rather the fights, unpredictable outcomes and a whole lot of gossip. You know you are in for a treat! Vanderpump Rules is one of those shows that you know you love but amidst the secrets and lies, friendship drama and unforgettable moments, hot dishes of life lessons are served. Over the many many seasons, here are the top 5 valuable lessons that I’ve learnt from the cast that resonate beyond the screen. Who knew that watching reality TV can be so educational.
Because we’re good as gold!
Because we’re good as gold!
1. Be Unapologetically You
Yes, that’s right. Be you but without the violence! One of the most memorable scenes in Vanderpump Rules is when Stassi confronts Kristen and ends up slapping her. While the slap itself became infamous, the moment is something that lies much deeper in the surface: the importance of being unapologetically true to oneself. Stassi’s actions, though extreme (we do not agree with the action taken), reflected her commitment to her own values and feelings. She wasn’t afraid to stand up for herself, even though it was done in a very harsh way.
However, the main point taken from this – hopefully no one is in the same situation as Kristen and Stassi were, but it’s crucial to embrace who you are without fear of judgment. When you are authentic to yourself, this attracts the right people and opportunities into your life. Just like Stassi, who never ever shies away from expressing herself, we too can find power in our own identities. It’s about knowing your worth, what you stand for and not letting anyone dim your light. Remember you are ambient!
Stassi Schroeder: Stassi has always been known for saying what she strongly believes in as well as her no-nonsense attitude. She’s unapologetically herself, it doesn’t matter how it’s perceived – she is who she is with love for all things spooky (like her scary birthday parties) or setting up her friends when they have betrayed her.
Lala Kent: Lala has been unapologetically herself since she joined the show. Lala doesn’t hold back. She will call you out when she believes others are not themselves and are putting on a show persona. She’s so confident that she doesn’t let anyone else’s opinions make or break her.
James Kennedy: Love him or hate him, he says what he says when he says it. With all his mistakes and his constant self-improvement, he is still being himself no matter what.
2. Loyalty is Everything
There is definitely no loyalty when it comes to dating – even partners who seem the strongest – loyalty is not one of their strengths but when it comes to friendships – we can actually see loyalty. Girls trip! Get togethers and a whole lot of hang outs happen through the course of the seasons. One thing we can all agree on, is the camaraderie among the women of Vanderpump Rules is iconic when they are all happy with each other. This sense of loyalty they have to each other takes prominence. It becomes enjoyable to watch when everyone gets along – especially when the Vanderpump girls cheer each other on through thick and thin. Loyalty isn’t just a word—it’s a way of life.
Loyalty is the foundation of a strong relationship whether it’s family, friends, significant others, or colleagues. Taking care and standing with the people you care about even when times get tough helps build trust and strengthens relationships, creating a support system that can weather any storm.
Lisa Vanderpump’s Loyalty to Her Staff: Lisa Vanderpump has often shown loyalty to her employees even when they face personal issues. She is always there to give them advice, help and even listen to their situations. This has earned her the employee’s respect and loyalty.
Scheana Shay, Ariana Madix, Lala Kent and Katie Maloney support each other: Even though their friendships are not always rainbows and sunshine, they all offered support for Scheana when she gave birth to her daughter Summer Moon. Even Lala and Scheana, who have had disagreements in the past, put all that aside and bonded over their new roles as mothers.
3. Communicate Clearly
This is the bread and butter of any reality show. Whispers float in the air only to be catched by someone who often manipulates the truth, stretching it out to a vicious gossip floating their boat or need I say yacht (Real Housewives, anyone?).
In Vanderpump Rules, misunderstandings and drama are the main course of why this show is so addicting. Even the scandals which often arise from a lack of clear communication. It seems like the truth is extinct. Everything is covered with lies. Scandoval! But we are all too familiar with this example. So let’s resort to another prime example when James Kennedy was completely upset after Brock wanted to get married to Scheana during his engagement party with Lala spilling the beans. The situation became even messier with confrontation, leading to hurt feelings and tension.
Lala Kent Hiding Her Relationship: Lala Kent faced constant gossip about her relationship with Randall. She kept it hidden which led to speculation and a whole lot of stares. She had to communicate clearly to the cast about the truth of her relationship as the speculation intensified.
Brittany Confronts Jax About Faith Rumors: When Brittany heard the rumors that Jax had cheated on her with Faith and then heard the recording, she directly confronted him which got her the truth. She didn’t hold back and got the truth, finally.
This serves as a reminder of the importance of clear and thoughtful communication. When you’re sharing news (important one for that matter) or navigating a certain situation, how you communicate can make all the difference. It’s not just about what you say, but also about how, when and where you say it. Effective communication can prevent misunderstandings and ensure that everyone (everyone!) is on the same page. This lesson can be applied to everything from personal relationships to professional settings. This incident is a reminder on how to avoid unnecessary drama and foster a more positive calm environment.
James Confronts Brock About His Secret Wedding Plans
4. Rise Above Challenges
Life isn’t always a smooth sail and Vanderpump Rules proves that. With the ups and downs, scandals and cheaters, the cast faces the most unpredictable shocking discoveries. These moments are a powerful reminder that no matter how tough things get, no matter who’s side anyone is on – we have the strength to rise above our challenges when things get hard.
Lala’s Sobriety Journey: Lala’s decision to be sober was definitely a significant challenge, even though the group was known to have a good time in a party-heavy environment. She openly discussed her decision and took the right steps to achieve her goal.
Scheana’s Divorce: Scheana Shay’s divorce from Mike Shay was hard for her. Even though she was still working at SUR and filming the show, she went through a difficult and emotional process.
In our own lives, we’re often faced with difficulties – getting thrown in the mud and stressed out too many times. Whether it’s a personal setback, a professional hurdle or a legal battle, the key is to keep pushing forward. The resilience shown by Scheana and Lala is something we can all learn from. Finding your inner strength to overcome any obstacles. It’s time to focus on solutions rather than dwelling on problems, you can rise above the challenge and be the rockstar you were born to be.
5. Embrace Change
Change (Not what you find in between the cushions of your couch) is a constant theme in Vanderpump Rules. This is evident in the journeys of Ariana Madix and Katie Maloney. After parting ways with the Toms (Tom Sandoval and Tom Schwartz), these two strong women not only embraced change but also thrived in it. Woohoo! Together, they opened a sandwich shop, showing that they are better off solo.
This shows us that change can be the catalyst for growth and better opportunities but embracing change isn’t easy. It’s hard and it takes time for growth which can be worrisome but all in all – just have to let time run its course and hope for the best. Ariana and Katie’s journey reminds us that when we let go of what no longer serves us, we make room for new and better possibilities. Okay so maybe we are not opening up a sandwich shop or getting the chance to be on Dancing with the stars but change can help us in a career shift, the end of a relationship, or starting a new venture. Embracing change allows us to evolve and transform our lives in ways we never thought we could.
Ariana Madix & Katie Maloney's Sandwich Shop
So there you have it Rakstars, Vanderpump Rules, the reality show that’s packed with drama, also offers us lessons that can inspire and teach us in our own lives. From being unapologetically yourself to embracing change, the lessons learnt from this reality show can serve as a guide, reminding us to stay true to ourselves, value loyalty, communicate clearly, rise above challenges and welcome the changes that life inevitably brings. Vanderpump Rules is better than a textbook!