Sorry, do I know you?
We get it all the time. That feeling of being an imposter. Are we really who we are? Am I really an employee of a well-known company? Am I actually a graduate student? Did they really accept me into the program? Like what? Ah! Pinch Me!
Am I really doing a presentation in front of the client and partners? No I couldn’t. They are asking me a question. But they are highly competent and more skilled than me. Who would ever want to listen to me? I knew it! I wasn’t good at the presentation. Yep! I’m so silly. I can’t believe I just said that.
Mean time, in the partner meeting: That was wonderful. They really knew their stuff. Get them to do the presentation with the next client.
Your brain:
I was horrible. I will never be good enough. Did you see those looks? Aw gosh!
When we look at the mirror, who do we really see? You! Well, yourself anyways. Our mind versus who we really are ACT like they are two different people. Your mind plays a game, downplaying your achievements versus your actual accomplishments. In a world of self-apprehension, our thoughts are not necessarily facts, yet since we thought them, they must be.
Try it! Say to yourself: A banana is orange.
Is your mind convincing yourself that it is? I see you tilting your head to the side to think.
YOUR BRAIN:
Well, if you take a look at it from a different angle and you flip it upside down and yes, when they are grown they are actually orange. Like an orange that’s close to a yellow. Yes, that’s it and then when we go to the grocery store – it automatically becomes yellow. Yes, a banana is orange.
Rakstar, don’t kid yourself. A banana is yellow, sometimes green and sometimes yellow with brown spots. But it will never be orange.
So our thoughts are not facts. Right? I mean think about it. If you say, the sky will rain lollipops in 2 seconds.
1 second
2 second
Did the sky rain lollipops? Nah, I didn’t think so either.
So why do we self-talk ourselves down? We say to ourselves that we are a fraud, or we can’t do something but in reality we can. Heck Yeah! We can!
Culture and Environments are the living bacteria for our imposter syndrome. When you are in a group of people who don’t seem to validate you for you, you feel like you can’t do something. But in fact, actually, let me tell you a fact, right now, cause I know this is one.
You can do anything you want to do. It may not be successful, it may not be anywhere near you expect it to be, but you are capable of doing it! Whether you’re lazy like the rest of us or nervous and scared. We all are! It doesn’t make you any different than the rest. It is those who have cheerleaders cheering on in the stands that have the courage to get up and pursue their dreams. But not all of us have those cheerleaders.
So here we are today! You are reading this. We are your cheerleaders. Rakstars!! You are a Rakstar! We are cheering you on from the sidelines because in reality, we believe in you. So get up right now and make your dream a reality.
So next time, when your mind infiltrates a story of a secret spy saying that you are not good enough, you are not smart enough, you are stupid, what are you doing here in a position like that – how dare you think you can move up to leadership position, what makes you think you are so smart when you only got 75% on the exam, are you really intelligent to go to graduate school. Just say this one thing. One thing only.
Sorry, do I know you? Because if you did, you would know what I am capable of. (**Drop the mic**)
Sorry, do I know you? (True story: In high school, I added my crush’s girlfriend on facebook who knew me since we were in the same class, but yet, she sent me a message saying that! Ouch! What a way to spy on your crush’s girlfriend. LOL! I wonder if she knew.)