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Who are You?

Sorry, do I know you?

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Sorry, do I know you? 

We get it all the time. That feeling of being an imposter. Are we really who we are? Am I really an employee of a well-known company? Am I actually a graduate student? Did they really accept me into the program? Like what? Ah! Pinch Me! 

Am I really doing a presentation in front of the client and partners? No I couldn’t. They are asking me a question. But they are highly competent and more skilled than me. Who would ever want to listen to me? I knew it! I wasn’t good at the presentation. Yep! I’m so silly. I can’t believe I just said that. 

Mean time, in the partner meeting: That was wonderful. They really knew their stuff. Get them to do the presentation with the next client.

Your brain:

I was horrible. I will never be good enough. Did you see those looks? Aw gosh!

When we look at the mirror, who do we really see? You! Well, yourself anyways. Our mind versus who we really are ACT like they are two different people. Your mind plays a game, downplaying your achievements versus your actual accomplishments. In a world of self-apprehension, our thoughts are not necessarily facts, yet since we thought them, they must be. 

Try it! Say to yourself: A banana is orange.

Is your mind convincing yourself that it is? I see you tilting your head to the side to think.

YOUR BRAIN:

Well, if you take a look at it from a different angle and you flip it upside down and yes, when they are grown they are actually orange. Like an orange that’s close to a yellow. Yes, that’s it and then when we go to the grocery store – it automatically becomes yellow. Yes, a banana is orange.

Rakstar, don’t kid yourself. A banana is yellow, sometimes green and sometimes yellow with brown spots. But it will never be orange. 

So our thoughts are not facts. Right? I mean think about it. If you say, the sky will rain lollipops in 2 seconds. 

 

1 second

2 second

 

Did the sky rain lollipops? Nah, I didn’t think so either. 

So why do we self-talk ourselves down? We say to ourselves that we are a fraud, or we can’t do something but in reality we can. Heck Yeah! We can!

Culture and Environments are the living bacteria for our imposter syndrome. When you are in a group of people who don’t seem to validate you for you, you feel like you can’t do something. But in fact, actually, let me tell you a fact, right now, cause I know this is one. 

You can do anything you want to do. It may not be successful, it may not be anywhere near you expect it to be, but you are capable of doing it! Whether you’re lazy like the rest of us or nervous and scared. We all are! It doesn’t make you any different than the rest. It is those who have cheerleaders cheering on in the stands that have the courage to get up and pursue their dreams. But not all of us have those cheerleaders. 

So here we are today! You are reading this. We are your cheerleaders. Rakstars!! You are a Rakstar! We are cheering you on from the sidelines because in reality, we believe in you. So get up right now and make your dream a reality. 

So next time, when your mind infiltrates a story of a secret spy saying that you are not good enough, you are not smart enough, you are stupid, what are you doing here in a position like that – how dare you think you can move up to leadership position, what makes you think you are so smart when you only got 75% on the exam, are you really intelligent to go to graduate school. Just say this one thing. One thing only. 

Sorry, do I know you? Because if you did, you would know what I am capable of. (**Drop the mic**)

 

Sorry, do I know you? (True story: In high school, I added my crush’s girlfriend on facebook who knew me since we were in the same class, but yet, she sent me a message saying that! Ouch! What a way to spy on your crush’s girlfriend. LOL! I wonder if she knew.)






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Mentor, Mentor, Do you have a Mentor? 

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Hello Rakstars, 

Why did the mentor bring a ladder to the advice session?

Because they wanted to take their mentee to the next level!

Transcending down the path of a professional journey can be time consuming and overall crazy. There is nothing like slaving the day to climb the never ending ladder. Literally! You walk into your building, ride up the elevator only to be downgraded by seasoned professionals. In a fast landscape, where the world is your oyster, there are rough waters at sea. Alas, we need to possess a compass – something that can help us navigate and provide guidance. 

All aboard, Rakstars. 

Mentorship is all the rage now. But yet we shrug our shoulders. Who would want to mentor me, one may say. But fear not, mentors enjoy what they do. They like to communicate and pass down advice they wish they learnt. Not only are they like teachers but also a friend. Are you ready to navigate the uncharted waters of your career? Probably not. But that’s okay. No one is. You have to be well seasoned, to be in steady waters. 

The relationship between young professionals and mentors is important when you want to move up the ladder and grow your mindset.

Wisdom Transcends Your Journey

A mentor, as you know, is someone who is seasoned in their field, thus having an abundance of experience and knowledge. Their words enlighten you based on their real-world scenarios which becomes an invaluable gem. The benefit of their wisdom allows you to avoid pitfalls and make the best informed choices.  

Career Roadmap and Goal Setting

Buckle your seats, we are going for a ride. Literally. As a young professional, you are not taking a one straight, no speed bumps, no detours, all inclusive ride. Nah! Doesn’t work that way. If it does – let me know who you know? 

Career goals are a timid task which is hard. Just like picking what you want to do after high school. There is no way you’re going to have all the answers and your parents or your siblings or your Uncle who thinks he knows it all but really it’s your Aunt that feeds all that information are gonna know either. You need someone, unbiased, someone who doesn’t really know you so they can’t sugar coat things. Someone who actually knows what they are saying because they lived it. 

Having a mentor is to help you with your aspirations and journey. Every step you take along the way is important, creating a roadmap to your success. 

Building a Professional Network

Network! Network! Network! Go and meet people. Yes, do it! I know you’re an introvert but it’s okay. Everyone is scared, even the people that you need to network with. It’s a put on that they are confident but really they are nervous to meet you. I mean who wouldn’t. You are a great human being. A Rakstar! I would be nervous to meet you as well.

Networking can help open the doors to the industry you want to be in, allowing to create opportunities to learn, collaborate and expand your circle. 

Navigating Workplace Situations

Dynamics in a workplace aka a fancy term for situations in the workplace can be hard to face alone. You can’t really run to your boss or your gossip lover co-worker. Mentors can help serve as a helpful guide to understanding politics, cough, I mean, situations and help you to build positive relationships. 

Skill Development

Learning new perspectives can help you with your growth and learning. This is essential to be a well-rounded individual which is important to the overall culture at your organization. Mentors can offer constructive feedback, allowing you to stay competitive in your field. 

Emotional Support

The career journey is not smooth like peanut butter. No it is not. It has its challenges which can really shake your confidence. Been there, done that! Talking to a mentor is like therapy where you can tell them about the situation and they are there to provide emotional support through the setbacks. This will only make you stronger as a mentor is a powerful motivator. 

Fostering a Growth Mindset

A mentor can help you have a growth mindset, allowing you to embrace challenges and learn from criticism. Having a mentor with a positive mindset can really help you get out of your old mind. 

There are two mindsets: 

  1. Old Mindset: You have all the right answers. Great, okay, you’re in a fixed state of solutions.
  2. Growth Mindset: You ask powerful questions. Okay so now you’re talking about innovative game changing solutions.                                  

Add Value to the Workplace

As a person trying to carve their path, you have the opportunity to add what you have learned from your mentor and apply it to your work, thus, not creating a benefit just for yourself but also for the culture of the organization. You never know, one day you may be a mentor, paying the knowledge and advice you learnt forward – creating the cycle of knowledge contributing to the growth and development of people who really need it. 

Key Principles when you are in your Advice Sessions

  1. Pause before you speak
  2. Listening is more powerful than speaking
  3. Hear out all possibilities

Ways to Stay Organized with Your Mentor

  1. Think ahead with your conversation before speaking with your mentor – this will help to engage a better conversation, not wasting your precious mentor’s time
  2. Plan ahead with where you want to meet, whether it’s in person or virtually. You can plan to go out for lunch, coffee break or try going for a walk together. 
  3. Book ahead as your mentor is a busy person. A night before you want to meet, won’t really cut it. Be professional and give a reasonable time notice.

Rakstars, in the political world of the professional world, mentorship is a great way to stay ahead of the challenges and work towards your success. Benefits are extraneous including your immediate career growth, fostering learning and seizing success. This could be your key to a bright future ahead. Rakstars, even stars, need a constellation to shine their brightest. So what are you waiting for?

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The Power of Connection

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  1. Human Beings are people of reciprocality: If you smile, the other person will smile. You give out rude behaviour so will the other person. If you are not bothered, so will be the other person. As humans we tend to pick out the emotion in the room and get back what others have put out. 
  2. Illusion of Transparency: We believe that how we see ourselves, other people will see us the same way. In no shape or form is this real. This is the Ambiguity gap. Our intent vs our impact on others do not equal. Remember Rakstars, the person on the other end, doesn’t know your experience or has the same knowledge as you, thus, they don’t see us the way we see ourselves. Rakstars, everyone interprets their thoughts, words and actions through their very own lenses. The Human brain is smart – it is like a prediction machine where it wants to understand the world so it bridges the gap of ambiguity with best guesses. Doesn’t mean it’s always accurate. This is why connection is important. For example, if you were bullied in the past, you are more likely to interpret some ambiguous behaviour as a threat compared to someone who hasn’t been bullied in the past, they would feel different.  
  3. Social Connection: We love to be social, we really do. Even those introverts that are out there. Since we were babies, we relied on others for life. You need to be in a group to thrive in life. But as we need connections, we are also sensitive. Social pain is a real thing. Just like the bullying example above, if we don’t feel connected – we feel the pain. Did you know that there is a part of the brain called the Anterior Cingulate Cortex (ACC), where this is linked to conflict monitoring. For example, if you get a paper cut and feel physical pain, the ACC becomes activated. This ACC can also activate the social exclusion pain such as being rejected. Social bonds are so vital that we have a social attachment system which combines with the physical pain system. You know that feeling when someone backstabs you and you say it was a punch to the stomach, well, yeah, you feel it because we have physical pain related to the feelings of social pain. 
  4. Treat others the way you would like to be treated: It all comes down to Fairness. Fairness is the ability to build strong connections with others without having others feel that their thoughts or opinions doesn’t matter. Being fair with others can help lead to a stronger connection as this builds trust. Being fair allows you to seek input and actively listen to the person. Not only that, it allows you to give others credit and acknowledge their accomplishments 
  5. Be authentic and open: Have a growth mindset where you can engage deeply in a learning process – you can do anything. Be like water where you can adapt to different challenges that come your way. You shouldn’t be ashamed if you make a mistake, once you do, you have now learnt from it, thus it expands your mind creating more neuron connections. 

Rakstars, you have the power of connection within the palm of your hands. Use it wisely!

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Sticky Notes

I am a sucker for these things (and here’s why you should be too)

The Best Way to Boost Productivity Unleash the Power of Sticky Notes

I am a sucker for these things and here’s why you should be too. Ever had such a wonderful idea and forgot it? Can’t find where you placed that one sheet of paper. Yes, it’s saved on your device, but where? It’s old school but there’s a reason why people who write things down, they remember it easier and an added bonus if it’s on the wall, on a binder or just stuck to your chair – you’re gonna remember regardless!

Are you a fan of stationary supplies? I mean who isn’t. Remember those days when you used to go back to school shopping, I know I do. I miss it, who wouldn’t? New supplies – the smell of freshly packed pencils and a brand new pencil case cause a year older means we need something to represent our new style. But did you ever buy sticky notes?  These adhesive-backed pieces of paper have saved the day more times than I can count. 

 

Remember that thing, yes that small square piece of… wait, what was it? 

 

Picture this: You being regal, ambient and kind are going about your day, just like any other day and boom, a genius wonderful most incredible idea strikes down like the fourth of July. It’s a game-changer, a potential breakthrough, something you don’t want to forget like an anniversary, a birthday, a billion dollar idea or what to have for dinner tonight. But here’s the catch – if you don’t capture it in that second, it might fade away to that far far far away cloud.

Here comes the productivity hack: Sticky Notes. This trusted tool can help keep your thoughts in place. A well-placed sticky note can capture your idea in an instant, ensuring it won’t slip away into a boat on a summer’s dream. No more worried searches for that lost piece of paper(s) or that forgotten digital note that you know you saved but were in your device. Just stick it right in front of you. 

Physical Copy

In today’s digital world, we’re often encouraged to go paperless. Which is definitely environmentally friendly and of course, we need to save our planet. As technology has its pros, there is something undeniably powerful about the experience of just simply writing things down – the old fashion way. Research has shown that the act of physically writing things down on paper can enhance memory retention and comprehension.

When you write something down on a sticky note, you need to place it where you can see it and only then will it serve as a constant reminder – a reminder that you need. This becomes a visual cue that keeps you on track. Whether it’s on your office wall, your binder, or even stuck to your chair (yes, I’ve done that too), it becomes a part of your environment, reinforcing that one thing or multiple things you need to remember.

Versatile

Sticky notes are incredibly multi-talented. They come in various shapes, sizes and even colours. Want to prioritize your to-do list? Use color-coded sticky notes. Want to capture quick reminders? Reach for a smaller sticky note pad. There’s a sticky note for every situation. Rakstars, there is!

Moreover, they’re easily moveable and adaptable. If your plans change, simply peel off a note and alter it. No need to uproot everything else. It’s perfect for that ever-evolving agenda.

Whether you’re a student, a working professional, a meal planner, a singer, a dancer, an accountant, a King or simply someone with a lot on your plate, grab a packet of sticky notes and have fun!

Remember Rakstars, we are here to help you work smarter and remember better. Here’s to a more organized and productive you, with help of the mighty sticky note!

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Ms. Failure (A note to my teacher)

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Dear Ms. Failure, 

I hope this letter finds you well. I wanted to take a moment to express my gratitude for the role you played throughout my life. Thank you for having the courage to come to me. This has been a catalyst for my personal growth journey. 

The lesson you served gave me a wake-up call. At first, I was hurt, scared and upset. But then after time, it ignited a sense of redirection – determination if you will. I had to reassess, go back to the drawing board but yet I did not give up. The feedback that was shared helped me understand my shortcomings. I knew I wasn’t perfect and I knew I needed help. 

At first, I saw this as a setback. Why me, pondered in my brain. I was sad, disheartened and cried. But I couldn’t let myself see this failure as a defeat. I chose it to see this as an opportunity – an opportunity of calmness and contentment. Comfort of chocolate soothed the pain, but it helped heal me so that I could take time to reflect on what I needed to do. Your constructive criticism allowed me to gain valuable insights – seeing the glass half empty to creating the glass half full. 

I implored strategies and implemented changes to my approach. I asked for help when needed and became more alert. This failure was my turning point. I sat so comfortably that I didn’t realize I really needed to change. This failure propelled me to work smarter. As a result of this event, I knew that I had to improve myself – confidence, anxiety & extracurriculars. I developed a resilience that I never knew existed. 

Mrs. Failure, your role was a pivotal eye opener. I want to express my utmost appreciation for the impact that you have caused. Thank you for failing me. Without you failing me, I wouldn’t have pushed harder, I wouldn’t have been innovative and I certainly would be sitting somewhere that wasn’t meant to be. Your dedication has not gone unnoticed. 

I am fine now. Thanks for asking. I am happier than ever and I look forward to applying the lessons you have brought on in life for any upcoming challenges that may appear. 

Mrs. Failure, thanks for being a contributing educator to my growth. 

Sincerely,

Me






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What Do You Do for a Living?

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Excuse Me, what do you do for a living?

Who? Me?

Yes you?

Oh, I’m a professional risk taker. 

Rakstars, in a world of innovation – success and stagnation lies between two paths. The path of willingness to take risks or the same old path. Professional risk takers are the innovative visionaries who dare to take challenges and look beyond the status quo to get out of their comfort zones and dare to discover. But Rakstars, the question remains, what does it take to become a Professional Risk Taker?

What is a Professional Risk Taker? 

A pioneer who is a fearless compass navigating uncharted areas in their professional journey. So basically, a superhero, right? 

Anatomy of a Professional Risk-Taker:

Challenges appear and they take it with a pinch of salt. Uncertainties arise and so do they. Instead of hiding from the challenge, they are there at the forefront mining all the challenges and dealing with it. Insteading of viewing risks as bad, they view them as opportunities for self-development and growth. When innovation is on the rise, so are they, whether it’s starting a business, speaking out to strangers, taking on leadership roles or pitching their unconventional ideas. The idea of risks and reward doesn’t shy them away. Whatever happens happens. If the risk occurs and not the reward. Oh well, they tried. If the reward is greater than the risk, then it’s a party. At the end of the day, you don’t know, if you don’t try.    

Rakstars, the real question is: Are You a Professional Risk-Taker?

It’s totally okay if you are not. You don’t have to be one. If you don’t like risk and can’t stand it, no pressure. But if you want to dabble into this field, well, take a look. Consider the following traits to see if you can climb the mountain: 

Adaptable to Change 

Okay, so maybe not everyone loves change, but you are adaptable to change. You flow like water and can fit in any vessel. 

Resilience 

Setbacks and Failures, get you down or are you willing to rise above, nod your head and move on?  A true risk taker is able to be a bouncy ball – bounce back up with their determination. 

Enthusiastic Decision Maker 

Can you make decisions even when you don’t know the outcome? A risk taker can cope and respond to the outcome when it happens. You can’t think of all the possible what ifs? So don’t. Make your decision and have a plan to cope with the outcome. 

Thinking Outside the Box

Okay so it doesn’t have to be a box, maybe a diamond or what about two triangles? Do you seek out innovative solutions so you can get your way? 

Embrace Failure 

Instead of fearing failure, do you see it as an opportunity as one step closer to achieving your goals?  

 

The Risk that I took was Calculated but man am I bad at Math

 

If some of these don’t align with you – no worries, we got you. Sometimes, it’s hidden under all that beauty. Here are some ways for you to unleash the Professional Risk Taker inside of you: 

Start off Small

In your current role – whether you are a student, stay at home or employee – take some calculated risks. For example, propose new ideas, do something new or ask for challenging tasks – see what you can take on but start small. 

Be a Learner 

Yes, the amount of times we talk about learning means it’s not something to ignore. The fact that you are here, reading this, we know you are willing to learn. Remember, knowledge makes you more informed thus, you can make strategic decisions. 

Network 

Connect with others who are risk takers in your opinion. You saw them do something that shocked you. You knew you couldn’t do it, but yet they did. Reach out. Speak to them. Seek mentorship and let them help guide you. 

Defining Goals 

What is your goal that you would like to achieve? How does being a Professional Risk Taker align with this goal – having this vision will make you motivated and intentionally create decisions. 

Instinct Trusting 

Decisions – the best ones – can come from your gut. Listen to yourself and go with that! If you become confident within yourself – you can be confident making decisions. 

Rakstars, being a professional risk taker is not a role where your resume gets you in the door. It’s not about having all the successes in the world. It’s about well, literally taking risks that can give you rewards. On a serious note, it is all about leaping into the unknown. You can take risks that you feel comfortable with, calculated risks or you can take risks that are not so calculated. Assess your comfort level with the risk you want to embark on and go for it. You never know, your new role as a professional risk taker may just be the key to transform you into that professional journey you dreamed about all along. 

 

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I NEED A HOLIDAY!

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The Power of Taking a Break I Need a Holiday ASAP

We are busy. Yes we are and there is nothing that’s going to change that. Being busy is a blessing but also a curse. We are tired, exhausted and just want to relax. But the problem is… we lose sight of ourselves.

We forget about ourselves, our batteries, our machines – they run out of juice unfortunately and we are not running on solar energy here. We need time to recharge. But we don’t. Why you may ask? Well, demands of work, school and our responsibilities are all in front of us, piling up like a mountain of a never ending pile of sand. The need for a holiday is more needed than ever. You may say, I don’t need a holiday, I’m good. I just have this and this and a little bit of that to do and then I’m done and then I can relax. 

There is this beautiful quote by Alan Cohen, 

Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect. – Alan Cohen 

So why wait for that holiday? Still not convinced, see the benefits of taking one: 

1) Mental Health Reset

Booking a holiday in your schedule is a much needed boost for your mind. The holiday allows you to step away from the noise, declutter the mind and return back to your everyday life with a fresh perspective. Changing your scenery is important as it can really help take that mental mind shift to promote clarity, well-being and getting rid of that burnout. It helps to heal within. 

2) Physical Renewal

Time to recharge that body. When you are on holiday – you could be lying on the beach or touring the crowded city – the physical activity and the wide exposure you receive from the different environments that you are surrounded in helps to take a break from that sedentary lifestyle that you were accustomed to. Walking from the beach back to the hotel room or searching for the tourist sites, all spark that energy that we were too lazy to find. 

3) Strengthening Relationships

If you decide to go on holiday with loved ones, family members and friends – holidays help to create lasting memories which in turn strengthen the bonds. Having connections with others are essential for your emotional well-being creating a supportive environment uplifting your spirits. 

4) Creativity Booster

When you step outside of your mundane activities, you can actually create inspiration. New sights, scenes, cultures and even sounds can stimulate that brain of yours allowing your mind to creatively think and enhance your problem-solving skills. So essentially, a holiday is not a break, it’s more of self-development time. 

Are you convinced, yet?

We sure hope you do take time out of your busy life, to have a holiday!

Rakstars, taking a holiday is an investment to your well-being. It allows you to explore new depths, unwind and make you the best person you can be. You are a Rakstar, tackling life’s challenges one day at a time and you deserve a holiday. Remember, the best investment is the investment in you!

 

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How to Deal with a Difficult Manager? Don’t Sink, SWIM!

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IN ROUGH WATERS? We feel you!

Working with a difficult manager can be a real test of your patience and we are here for you. Seriously! Whether they’re overly demanding, micro-managing, or just plain tough to communicate with, aka rude, dealing with a manager who only cares about themselves can be a struggle. But fear not! There is a way to maintain your professionalism and sanity. 

Why Managers Can Be Difficult?

Before we jump into how to deal with a manager, it’s a good way to look at it from a holistic approach. Since we are full of empathy, let’s put ourselves in there shoes – even though we don’t want to – let’s try it. 

Picture yourself as your manager. Did you get the shivers? We sure did. Okay now let’s try to think about why managers exhibit difficult behaviour. Could they be stressed, pressured by their bosses or a lack of proper training (etiquette) or do they just simply don’t know leadership skills? Maybe they are having personal issues outside of work (which is not fair since they should keep their professionalism in check but at the end of the day people are human and sometimes they can’t help it.) Since your boss is a human (at least we think), their actions might not always be a reflection of your performance. So do not take it to heart. Okay now remove yourself as your boss and think of yourself as you. 

Defence Mechanism: Stay Professional and Calm at All Times

When faced with a difficult manager, the first rule is to be composed like Queen Elizabeth II. Emotional reactions often escalate conflicts. Instead, take a deep breath, stay calm and approach the situation with professionalism and a calm manner like you are walking on a trail. All is good and all is calm.  Maintaining your composure can help defuse tense interactions and show that you know what you’re talking about. You are royal after all. 

London Bridge is Falling Down – Quick Bridge the Gap

Effective communication is the key to resolving any conflicts with a difficult manager. Schedule a private conversation to discuss your concerns/conflict calmly and professionally. Try to use “I” statements. This can help to express your feelings and experiences, such as “I feel overwhelmed when I receive tasks at the last minute,” rather than blaming them for their poor time management skills.

Set Clear Expectations

Make sure your manager understands your workload as well make sure you communicate to them your workload. Your limitations and the time you need to complete tasks can vary from person to person and sometimes maybe most of the time, your manager tends to underestimate how long a task can take. If you take longer than what you expected, explain to your manager that you are learning how to do it or that you are working at a pace that is reasonable to you. Set clear expectations by discussing priorities, deadlines and realistic timelines. When both parties are on the same page, it can reduce misunderstandings and conflicts. Do not overpromise and pretend like you are the smartest person in the room, they expect more which can lead to you being burntout. Under promise but over deliver. They will like you more. 

Document Everything and I mean Everything – Create a Paper Trail

Keep a record of your interactions with your manager, including any emails, meeting notes and conversations. This becomes handy when you need to pull up those receipts. This is absolutely important if you need to escalate the issue to HR or your boss’s boss. It also helps to have evidence in case there are any discrepancies or any misunderstandings.

Seek Support and Guidance from Others

Sometimes, discussing the situation with colleagues, mentors, or possibly HR can provide insight and support. You may just hear advice or solutions that you hadn’t considered before, helping you navigate the situation. For instance, join committees such as the Professional Women’s Network or the social committee and through these clubs, seek out to find a mentor if your company doesn’t provide it already. Ask someone you look up to – go for a coffee with them each month. Get to know them, learn from them and ask for advice – if they are willing and wanting to support you. 

When All Else Fails

If you can’t handle the situation anymore, you can always consider other options. Try to transfer to a different department, find a new job, or explore opportunities elsewhere. Your mental, emotional and overall well-being should be your number one priority. Always Rakstars, always. 

You Can Win Over a Difficult Manager

Handling a tough boss is hard and something we’d rather avoid, but it’s not impossible. You’ve got this! Stay professional, talk openly, make your expectations clear, keep records of your interactions, ask for help, and think about your choices. These steps can help you take charge of the situation and keep your cool at work. Remember Rakstars, you can beat any hurdles in your way and keep moving forward in your career. We’re rooting for you!

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8 Ways to Find your Inner Chill

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Regal, Ambient, Kind Rakstars, how do you do? 

Want to be a chill-seeker? 

Are you constantly overwhelmed and just don’t know where to go or what to do but yet you have a controlling personality. 

It’s time to drop some wisdom on how to kick back, relax and find your inner chill. It’s hard especially for those Blair Waldorfs out there. But then there is Serena, the cool girl where she always gets her way. Life can get crazy sometimes but we all need a little Rest & Relaxation?

Let’s dive into de-stressing like a true Rakstar.

Schedule “Me Time” 🕒

First things first, fit some time in that calendar of yours. Tuesday at 1:45 – 1:47 pm sounds pleasing. Just joking or maybe we are not – in two minutes, you can sip your favourite tea or discreetly jam to your playlist or just zone out and forget that Susanna in Cubicle B is watching you – remember, this is all about you! Take a breath and let your mind unwind.

Soothing Sounds 🎶

You know just like a Rockstar we are all about those pumped up beats, right? Music is a one-way ticket to a city of relaxation. Whether it’s soothing spa sounds, the twist or Taylor Swift – create a playlist of your most soothing jams. Slow it down, feel the vibes and let the music wash away those stresses. Try singing along!

Finding Your Zen Zone 🧘‍♂️

Namaste! Get in touch with your inner zen!. Try yoga, meditation or try taking a good old nature walk. Feel the breeze and connect with Mother Earth. Why not?

Connections 🤙

De-stressing is even better when you’re rolling with your peeps. Get some friends over and plan a chill hangout or ask some colleagues to go for a walk with you at lunch time except for Susanna. Have some laughs, talk it up and remember, you’re never alone – everyone wants to chill, maybe don’t ask your boss!

Gratitude Attitude 🙏

No matter how crazy life is, it will always be crazy and that’s how life rolls. Remember, there’s always something to be thankful for. Take a second to jot down what you’re grateful for in a gratitude journal or a piece of paper. This practice of gratitude will put a smile on your face. 

Mindful Moments 🌼

Mindfulness is becoming a lifestyle. Take each moment as it comes, be present and breathe. Don’t overthink. Don’t over anticipate. Don’t sweat the small stuff – just be in the now. 

Disconnect and Recharge 🔌

Your phone dies and you rush to recharge it! Sometimes, we gotta unplug to recharge. Put away the devices, switch off all those notifications (put it on focus mode if you need to) and give your brain some downtime to just relax. You’ll be amazed at how refreshing it is.

Treat Yourself 🍕

Rakstars, you need a treat. If someone hasn’t told you. We are saying it now. Treat yourself to your favourite comfort food; pizza or ice cream or we can think bigger; some jewelry or what about the mall – let’s shop! When was the last time you treated yourself?  Sometimes, a little indulgence goes a long way.

Stay True to You 🙌

So, there you have it – try these ways to de-stress. But remember to stay true to yourself. Life can throw curveballs, but remember, you’re in control of your emotions and your chillness factor. Stay true to you and spread those good feels while you keep on rocking out. 

Peace out, Rakstars! ✌️ 

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This One Thing is Holding You Back! How to Achieve Your Dreams Faster and Smarter

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Identifying the One Thing Holding You Back

In the pursuit of our dreams, we often encounter various obstacles that hinder our progress. However, there is typically one significant factor that stands out as the primary barrier. Identifying this crucial element is essential because it can have a profound impact on our ability to achieve our goals. By pinpointing this single impediment, we can develop targeted strategies to address it, thereby accelerating our progress and optimizing our efforts.

Understanding what holds us back is the first step towards transformation. This barrier can manifest in different forms:

Fear of failure

Lack of Confidence

Procrastination

External influences

Recognizing its presence allows us to confront it head-on, turning a potential weakness into a source of strength. The importance of this identification cannot be overstated, as it paves the way for meaningful change and personal growth.

Rakstars, we will delve into the nature of this one thing that might be holding you back. You will be better equipped to navigate the challenges that lie ahead, harnessing your full potential and making significant strides towards your aspirations. With these insights and tools at your disposal, you can embark on a more focused and effective journey towards realizing your dreams.

Understanding the Nature of Fear

Fear, at its core, is a natural human response designed to protect us from potential threats. This primal instinct, rooted in our evolutionary history, served our ancestors well in life-or-death situations. However, in the context of modern life, fear often manifests in ways that hinder personal and professional growth, becoming a significant barrier to achieving our dreams.

One of the primary forms fear takes is anxiety. According to the American Psychological Association, anxiety is an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts, and physical changes like increased blood pressure. While a certain level of anxiety can be motivational, excessive anxiety can lead to paralysis, preventing individuals from taking the necessary steps toward their goals. For instance, the fear of public speaking can cause someone to avoid situations where they must present, thus missing out on opportunities for career advancement.

Self-doubt is another manifestation of fear. This internal dialogue questions one’s abilities and worthiness, often stemming from past experiences or societal pressures. Studies show that self-doubt can lead to the “imposter syndrome,” where individuals feel undeserving of their achievements. For example, a talented artist might never showcase their work, fearing it isn’t good enough, thereby stalling their creative potential and career progress.

Procrastination, often viewed merely as poor time management, is frequently rooted in fear. The task at hand might seem overwhelming or the fear of failure might be so daunting that delaying action becomes a coping mechanism. Research from the Journal of Clinical Psychology reveals that procrastination is linked to high levels of stress and low self-esteem, creating a vicious cycle that further impedes progress.

Understanding that fear is a natural response is the first step toward overcoming it. By recognizing its various forms—anxiety, self-doubt and procrastination—we can begin to address these barriers. Through cognitive-behavioural strategies and mindfulness practices, individuals can reframe their fears, transforming them into motivators rather than obstacles on the path to achieving their dreams.

Common Fears That Hold People Back

One significant barrier to achieving dreams is the multitude of fears that hold individuals back. These fears often manifest in various forms, each with the potential to stunt personal growth and progress. Understanding these common fears is the first step towards overcoming them.

The fear of failure is one of the most prevalent obstacles. It is characterized by the anxiety of not meeting expectations or falling short in one’s endeavours. For instance, an aspiring entrepreneur might hesitate to launch a business due to the potential risk of financial loss and the stigma associated with failure. This fear can be debilitating, leading to missed opportunities and stagnation.

Similarly, the fear of judgment can be a substantial deterrent. People often worry about how they will be perceived by others, which can limit their willingness to take risks or pursue unconventional paths. Consider a writer who avoids sharing their work with a broader audience due to concerns about criticism. The potential for negative feedback can be intimidating, yet it is this very feedback that can provide valuable insights and drive improvement.

The fear of success, though paradoxical, is another common issue. This fear stems from the responsibilities and expectations that accompany success. For example, an employee might fear a promotion because it entails greater accountability and pressure. While success is desirable, the changes it brings can be daunting, causing individuals to unconsciously sabotage their own efforts.

Lastly, the fear of the unknown is a significant barrier. The uncertainty and unpredictability of new ventures can be overwhelming. A student contemplating studying abroad might be held back by concerns about adapting to a different culture and environment. This fear can prevent individuals from embracing new experiences that could be enriching and transformative.

By acknowledging and addressing these common fears, individuals can begin to dismantle the barriers holding them back, paving the way for smarter and faster progress towards their dreams.

Self-Assessment: Identifying Your Personal Fear

Embarking on the journey to achieve your dreams necessitates a keen understanding of the fears that may be holding you back. Self-assessment is a vital tool to identify the personal fears that can act as significant barriers to your progress. Adopting a structured, reflective approach can help you uncover these hidden fears and address them effectively. Below, we present a step-by-step process to assist you in this crucial self-discovery.

Step 1: Self-Reflection

Begin by taking a quiet moment to reflect on your aspirations and the obstacles you perceive. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • What are my biggest dreams and goals?
  • What feelings or thoughts arise when I think about pursuing these dreams?
  • Are there specific scenarios or outcomes that I fear might happen?

Document your responses to these questions. Writing them down can provide clarity and make it easier to identify patterns in your fears.

Step 2: Pinpointing the Root Cause

With your initial reflections in hand, delve deeper to uncover the underlying causes of your fears. Consider these probing questions:

  • Why do I fear this particular outcome?
  • Is this fear based on past experiences, societal expectations, or self-imposed limitations?
  • How realistic are these fears and what evidence supports or refutes them?

Analyzing the root cause of your fears can often reveal that they are based on irrational beliefs or past experiences that no longer serve you.

Step 3: Assessing the Impact

Evaluate how these fears are impacting your progress towards your dreams. Reflect on the following:

  • How have these fears prevented me from taking action?
  • What opportunities have I missed because of these fears?
  • In what ways has this fear influenced my decision-making process?

Understanding the tangible impact of your fears can motivate you to address them and move forward.

Through this self-assessment exercise, you can gain a clearer understanding of the specific fears that are holding you back. Identifying and acknowledging these fears is the first step towards overcoming them and achieving your dreams faster and smarter.

Strategies to Overcome Fear

Fear is a common barrier that can significantly impede one’s progress toward achieving dreams and goals. However, several practical strategies can help individuals overcome fear and move forward with confidence. Understanding and implementing these strategies can make a substantial difference in how one approaches challenges and opportunities.

One effective method for combating fear is through cognitive-behavioural techniques (CBT). CBT involves identifying and challenging negative thought patterns that contribute to feelings of fear and anxiety. By re-framing these thoughts, individuals can reduce their emotional impact. For instance, if you find yourself thinking, “I will fail if I try this,” you can counteract this by asking, “What evidence do I have that I will fail?” or “What can I do to prepare better?” Practicing this regularly can change the way you perceive and react to fear-inducing situations.

Another powerful strategy is the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness involves staying present and fully engaging with the current moment without judgment. This practice can help reduce the grip of fear by preventing the mind from dwelling on negative past experiences or worrying excessively about the future. Simple mindfulness exercises, such as deep breathing, meditation, or mindful walking, can be incorporated into daily routines. These practices help in grounding oneself and managing stress effectively.

Building resilience is also vital in overcoming fear. Resilience refers to the ability to bounce back from setbacks and adapt to change. It can be developed through various means, such as setting realistic goals, maintaining a positive outlook and seeking support from friends, family, or mentors. Additionally, engaging in activities that build confidence, such as learning new skills or hobbies, can enhance one’s resilience. Facing small fears incrementally and celebrating each success can also fortify one’s ability to handle larger fears over time.

By integrating these strategies into daily life, individuals can gradually diminish the power of fear. Whether through cognitive-behavioural techniques, mindfulness practices, or resilience-building activities, these approaches offer tangible steps toward achieving dreams with greater speed and intelligence.

Setting SMART Goals for Faster Achievement

Setting SMART goals is a powerful strategy for accelerating the achievement of your dreams. The SMART framework, which stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound, provides a clear and structured approach to goal-setting. By adhering to these five principles, Rakstars, you can create well-defined objectives that are easier to track and accomplish, ultimately leading to faster and smarter success.

Firstly, a goal must be Specific. Instead of setting a vague ambition, such as “I want to be healthier,” a specific goal would be “I want to lose 10 pounds in three months by exercising four times a week and reducing my sugar intake.” Specificity eliminates ambiguity and sets a clear direction.

Secondly, goals should be Measurable. This involves establishing criteria to track progress and determine when the goal has been achieved. For instance, if your dream is to become a writer, a measurable goal could be “I will write 500 words daily for the next six months.” This allows for regular assessment of progress.

Thirdly, goals need to be Achievable. While it’s important to aim high, setting unattainable goals can lead to frustration and demotivation. An achievable goal is realistic and considers your current resources and constraints. For example, if you aim to learn a new language, an achievable goal might be “I will complete one language lesson online every evening for six months.”

Next, goals must be Relevant. They should align with your broader objectives and aspirations. A relevant goal ensures that your efforts are directed toward something meaningful. For instance, if your dream is to advance in your career, a relevant goal could be “I will complete a professional certification course in my field within a year.”

Finally, goals should be Time-bound. Setting a deadline creates a sense of urgency and encourages consistent effort. For example, if you aspire to run a marathon, a time-bound goal might be “I will train for six months and participate in the city marathon next spring.”

By setting SMART goals, individuals can maintain focus and motivation, making their dreams more attainable. This systematic approach not only clarifies what needs to be done but also provides a roadmap for how to get there, ensuring faster and smarter achievement of aspirations.

Leveraging Resources and Support Systems

Achieving your dreams often requires more than just hard work and determination. Leveraging available resources and support systems can significantly accelerate your progress and help you achieve your goals faster and smarter. One of the most valuable resources you can tap into is mentorship. A mentor can provide guidance based on their experience, helping you navigate challenges and avoid common pitfalls. Their insights can be invaluable, shedding light on strategies and tactics that you might not have considered.

In addition to mentorship, building a strong network is crucial. Networks provide a platform for exchanging ideas, finding collaborators and gaining access to opportunities that may not be publicly advertised. Whether it’s through professional associations, industry conferences, or online communities, connecting with like-minded individuals can offer new perspectives and open doors that propel you closer to your objectives.

Educational tools are another critical resource. Continuing education through courses, workshops and online platforms can enhance your skills and knowledge, keeping you competitive and informed. Many educational resources are now available at little to no cost, making it easier than ever to stay ahead of the curve. Utilizing these tools allows you to learn at your own pace and apply new skills directly to your projects, driving smarter, more efficient progress.

Support systems extend beyond professional realms into personal circles as well. Family and friends can provide emotional support, encouragement, and practical help, which are essential for maintaining motivation and resilience. Surrounding yourself with a supportive community can make a significant difference in your ability to push through obstacles and stay focused on your goals.

In leveraging these resources and support systems, you not only gain practical assistance but also foster an environment that nurtures growth and success. By actively seeking and utilizing mentors, networks, educational tools and personal support, you position yourself to overcome fear and achieve your dreams more swiftly and smartly. How does that sound Rakstars?

Maintaining Momentum and Staying Committed

Achieving your dreams faster and smarter requires unwavering commitment and the ability to maintain momentum, even in the face of setbacks. To stay on course, it is crucial to establish a few fundamental habits that reinforce perseverance and dedication. Regular self-reflection plays a pivotal role in this process, allowing you to assess your progress, identify areas for improvement and realign your strategies with your goals.

Perseverance is the bedrock of success. Every journey is fraught with challenges and it is your ability to persist through these difficulties that will ultimately determine your success. Embrace setbacks as learning opportunities rather than roadblocks. As Thomas Edison famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” This mindset shift can transform obstacles into valuable lessons that propel you forward.

Another powerful tool in maintaining momentum is celebrating small victories. Recognizing and celebrating incremental progress helps to build confidence and sustain motivation. These small achievements serve as tangible evidence of your capability and dedication, reinforcing the belief that you are on the right path. Whether it’s reaching a minor milestone or overcoming a small challenge, take the time to acknowledge and reward your efforts.

Motivational quotes and success stories can also serve as sources of inspiration. For instance, consider the story of J.K. Rowling, who faced numerous rejections before the “Harry Potter” series became a global phenomenon. Her journey underscores the importance of persistence and belief in one’s vision. Similarly, the words of Winston Churchill resonate deeply: “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.“

Incorporating these practices into your routine can significantly enhance your ability to stay committed and maintain momentum. By persevering through challenges, regularly reflecting on your progress and celebrating small victories, Rakstars, you can create a sustainable path toward achieving your dreams faster and smarter.

Embracing the Journey to Your Dreams

In the pursuit of our dreams, the biggest obstacle we often face is fear. Rakstars, we have explored various facets of how fear can hinder our progress and prevent us from achieving our goals efficiently. By identifying and confronting these fears head-on, we pave the way for a more focused and determined approach to our aspirations.

Recognizing that fear is a natural part of the journey allows us to address it without letting it control our decisions. Strategies such as setting clear goals, seeking mentorship and maintaining a positive mindset are essential in overcoming the barriers fear creates. Moreover, adopting a growth mindset encourages resilience and adaptability, enabling us to learn from setbacks and continue progressing toward our dreams.

It is vital to remember that the journey to our dreams is as important as the destination itself. Embracing the process, with all its challenges and triumphs, fosters personal growth and development. Staying resilient and continuously striving towards our goals, despite the hurdles, ensures that we move forward smarter and faster.

So Rakstars, let this be a reminder to not let fear hold you back. Embrace the journey, learn from every experience and remain steadfast in your pursuit. By doing so, you will not only achieve your dreams but also become a stronger, more capable person. Keep moving forward and let your dreams be the driving force that propels you to success.

You got this Rakstars! We believe in you!

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